If your goals are unachievable in practice, maybe it’s because they are defined as “yes | no”, as opposed to “more | less”. The goals defined as “more | less” are usually achievable; there is usually something you can do to get “more” of something.
Is there perhaps some goal or a part of a goal than could be converted to the “more | less” type? Or “better | worse” or any other continuous scale. (Make more money than now. Donate to charity more than now. Have better social relationships than now. Have more and better sex than now. Learn Chinese more fluently. …)
If your goals are unachievable in practice, maybe it’s because they are defined as “yes | no”, as opposed to “more | less”. The goals defined as “more | less” are usually achievable; there is usually something you can do to get “more” of something.
Is there perhaps some goal or a part of a goal than could be converted to the “more | less” type? Or “better | worse” or any other continuous scale. (Make more money than now. Donate to charity more than now. Have better social relationships than now. Have more and better sex than now. Learn Chinese more fluently. …)